As we like to do from time to time, we hope by sharing current situation/stories of children in foster care, or those that have grown up and out, we might shed some light on why your involvement and support is so important.
A Family For Every Child's
Family Finding program works to re-connect children in the foster care system
with relatives they've lost touch with. Connecting with family members can give
children a sense of belonging, a deeper sense of self and identity, and an
important support system that can help them be more successful participants in
society. For teens about to age out of foster care, this can be especially
important, as they might find people they can turn to as they venture out on
their own.
Through creativity and sheer
persistence, teams of Family Finding volunteers are often able to locate over 50
relatives for a child. AFFEC, in cooperation with DHS and CASA, then guides the
family members and child through a process of reconnecting with each other and
defining the nature of future contacts and relationships. Sometimes children
find places to spend holidays, or resources and support to help them attend
college. On occasion a found family member even ends up providing a forever
home for the child!
Randall and Mary (names have been
changed) are two of many children who have benefitted from this program. They
had been in foster care for thirteen years before Family Finding services were
provided. They were in touch with some family, such as their paternal
grandparents, but were interested in finding other supportive connections. They
were both happy in their foster homes but, especially after losing their
grandmother, were yearning to find other loved ones.
The Family Finding volunteer mined
both children’s files, performed Internet searches on the names that were found,
and called relatives in order to find more information and determine who would
be a good influence on the kids. Through this process, the Family Finding team
was able to identify some family members and other loved ones to invite to a
Family Meeting, the first step in the process of
reconnecting.
Three people from Randall and Mary's
past attended the meeting: their aunt; Mary’s former mentor; and the grandmother
of their half sister, Sheila. The children had never met their half sister, and
they had not seen their aunt or mentor since they were little
children.
At
the meeting, family members discussed what they could do to help the children,
and what kind of contact would be appropriate. Since no one had seen or spoken
to the siblings since they were very young, and both of the kids were happy in
their current situations, gradual communication was recommended. It did not
take long, however, before phone calls and visits unfolded, and real
relationships were forged between the children and their new loved ones. Now
both children have regular visits with their aunt, and know all about their half
sister, Sheila!
From all of
us at A Family For Every Child, thank you from the bottom of our hearts. It is
only through the generosity and support of community members like you that we
are able to make a real difference in the lives of our children in foster care.
Together we can find a family for
every child.
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