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TEEN SHOWCASED IN HEART GALLERY EAGER FOR ADOPTION-ALONG WITH HER 3 LITTLE BROTHERS
When the fighting
would start, Justice Smith would sneak into her little brothers' room to tell
them everything was going to be okay.
She was only 8 then,
but she knew what to do: put in a Scooby-Doo movie, turn the TV up real
loud so the boys couldn't hear their mother and her boyfriend screaming. Then
Justice would crawl into the bottom bunk and hold Max, the baby, until he fell
asleep.
Justice has three
younger brothers, and for most of her life, she has been their
mom.
When social workers
took the four children away from their mother and sent them to separate foster
homes, Justice was 10. Losing her little brothers, she says, was worse than
losing her mother.
Now she is 13 and
living in New Port Richey with a foster couple — and all of her brothers, ages
11, 9 and 6. She desperately wants to be adopted, to find a mom who will do
crafts with her and a dad to play ball with her brothers. She will agree to be
adopted only if all her brothers can come too.
"We went through all
this together and we're actually the only ones who can all relate to each
other," she says. "We'll be brothers and sisters until the end of the world.
Even after we're dead, we're still brothers and sisters."
Justice loves
super-sour candy, Hunger
Games books and Twilight movies. She gets A's and B's in her
seventh-grade classes and wants to be a writer, a nurse or maybe an actor. She
grew up frightened, trying to shield her brothers from the drugs and abuse. "I
know that a lot of kids are going through this," she says. "But it's actually
pretty hard when it's you."
Here, she shares her
story in her own words. Lane DeGregory, Times staff writer
JUSTICE:
When we lived with
our mom she couldn't really keep up with the bills, so we kept moving
constantly. We lived in trailers, normal houses and really bad houses. I think
we moved around eight times.
We weren't really
hungry because our mom usually got food stamps. We had macaroni, Hamburger
Helper, hot dogs; we had some frozen pizza and, like, TV dinners. She usually
made it before she left.
I remember one job,
she worked in Di's Pub or something. She was a bartender, I believe. We couldn't
go there.
At night she didn't
really come in our rooms a lot to say good night. But sometimes she would, and
then I would hug her a lot.
I kind of just liked
it when we would be in the house and we'd be cleaning and she'd put music on
loud and we'd sing and dance while we cleaned. We usually listened to hip-hop,
Fergie and Taylor Swift. She sings very well. It was nice.
I was so close with
my mom until she met Dave. That's when the problems started. He's been with her
five years. I remember the one night he got angry and then she went out and he
went to find her and then he pushed her into a pile of bricks. He was very
violent. He broke my mom's cheekbone.
One night they were
in a fight and my mom came in my room to get us and take us in her room and she
locked the door and everything, so I thought something bad must have gone on.
And Dave, he was like, "Let me in this room!" And he punched a hole in the door.
And then the cops were called, and the cop said if it happened again they would
both go to jail.
I would take my
brothers when they were fighting and, like, try to calm them down. Or keep them
away from the violence. I'd put movies on. Like Scooby-Doo, Little Mermaid, Beauty and the Beast,
that was one of my favorites. I also had some Barbies. I had boy Barbies and
girl Barbies and we would play with them and try to escape from that world and
go to a better place.
I don't know why, but
I just felt safer when my brothers were around, because then it's not just me
trying to protect myself. It's all four of us. I would say, like, it's going to
be okay and to calm down, because Max, he would cry. And I would sometimes feed
him. He was so small, not even a year old. And he would lay there on my arm and
we would watch TV together and he would just fall asleep.
Sometimes I would,
like, give them baths. I didn't really tell them to behave, because I thought
that was, like, my mom's job. 'Cause if she didn't want to raise them, why have
the kids?
I remember one time,
I was like 8, and my mom, she would be in her room doing drugs, and I would be
taking care of my brothers, sort of, like making sure they're fed and they're
clean. She was in her room, actually, a lot. Every day pretty much. I would try
to keep my brothers away from the smell. I can't really describe it but it
smelled a lot worse than cigarettes.
And I remember
sometimes my mom would meet up with some people and she'd get some blue pills
and stuff. I don't know what those were. I just remember not understanding, and
I hate not understanding stuff.
I had to be strong
for my brothers. But sometimes I thought that this would be, like, the end of my
happiness. If I felt bad I'd just go in my room and cry by
myself.
• •
•
One day I woke up and
I went to my mom's room. She wasn't there. And I'm like, "Dave, where's Mom?"
And he's, like, "I don't know." I thought she just went to get Dunkin' Donuts or
something to just give us a treat. But after a couple of hours it was, like, 1
o'clock, and I was like, "Where's Mom?" again. And he was like, "I don't
know."
After a while he's
like, "She's not back, so I'm taking you guys to your grandfather's house." And
then my Papa Kevin called my Nana B, and my Nana B came and took me. And the
boys went back with Dave.
The next day I
remember my Nana B waking me up in the morning and she came in my room crying
and it was super early. So I'm like, "I'm not going to school today, am I?" She
didn't answer me. She went to my closet and started picking out my clothes. And
after a while I kept asking her and finally she said, "You're going to foster
care." And I remember my heart dropped and I started crying, and she told me to
get dressed and use the bathroom, and then she got me some carrot sticks and
four bananas for my brothers and I to share.
And when we pulled up
at Dave's, I saw all these cops and these flashing lights, and then my Nana B
said, "Give me a hug." And I had to say goodbye. And then I went in where my
brothers were, and the cop said, "Give your mom a hug and a kiss." And when I
went to give her a hug and a kiss she smelled like milk shake. Dave had thrown a
milk shake at her. When I hugged her she was crying. I guess she understood more
than I did.
And then Jeremy and I
got to ride in a police car. That was probably the best thing that happened that
day. And Randy and Max rode in another car, and they took us to that big office.
I didn't have anything except the food, carrots and bananas. I remember we ate
them in the office because we were hungry. And then in the office I remember the
lady was like, "You guys can each pick out one stuffed animal." I think I got a
white teddy bear. It was good because it was something to hug.
I was sad to be taken
away from my mom. But I was kind of relieved to get away from the fighting and
the violence and also the neglect. We weren't getting the attention we needed,
and she wasn't actually being the parent.
We were at the office
for a couple of hours just walking around with people because they were trying
to find foster parents to take us. And they also gave us this bag. It had a
wooden car, a blanket, a little book and a toothbrush and hairbrush. And then we
all got separated.
Randy and Jeremy went
in the same house. I went into a different house. And Max went somewhere
else.
Then, after that, we
went back with our Nana B for four months. Then she got sick. And we were placed
in Sallie House. Except for Max, he was too young.
Then, after a while,
we moved out of Sallie House and split up again. We were apart nine months, but
we still had some visits. And we started having visits with our
mom.
I remember one visit
my mom said, "Get out of the house!" And it was raining and we were all crying,
and I think that was our last visit. We were getting on her nerves for some
reason. She locked the door. And I kept screaming, "Mommy! Mommy!" But she never
opened the door. We were out there until Miss Alma came.
Mom tried to get us
back. At least she tried. But the drugs just overpowered her. Drugs were more
powerful than love.
Sometimes at night I
think about my mom. One time I actually had a good dream about my mom. It didn't
really happen. But it was nice.
• •
•
I can't wait to get
adopted. I want a family that has a mom and a dad. And definitely a dog — or any
pet.
If I'm adopted it has
to be we're all together. Because we were all born and raised together. My
brothers always tell me how good I am, which makes me feel better and helps me
actually get through it with them. Sometimes they give me a headache. Sometimes,
not all the time. Especially when they keep talking. They're actually really
awesome. They're fun to hang out with. They're good at video games and they're
best to play Legos with.
Max is 6. He can get
angry. But he is adorable. He has those beautiful eyelashes and everything. And
sometimes he writes me these notes like, "I love you!"
Randy is 9. He has
big ears but they're adorable. And he's the best at video games and building
stuff, and he's actually really nice. He comes up to me and says, "You're the
best sister in the whole wide world!" He loves giving hugs.
Jeremy is 11. He's
funny. He's very giving. And I love his blue eyes. He has a big heart. All of
them have very big hearts. They always, like, tell me how much they love
me.
I'm intelligent. I'm
smart. I love to read. I'm good at drawing and writing, and I love my brothers
the most in the world. We have all these different qualities that not all kids
have. And when we come together, we can make the whole room light up quicker
than the sun rises.
From all of us at A Family For Every Child, thank you from the bottom of our hearts. It is only through the generosity and support of community members like you that we are able to make a real difference in the lives of our children in foster care. Together we can find a family for every child.
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